Sadly, not all psychopaths/sociopaths/antisocial malignant narcissists were abused in the past and/or experienced extreme trauma -- only an arguable percentage of them. Frankly, research has failed to reveal, with certainty, why people become such monsters -- overt and/or covert. However, the signs, among even toddlers (some well loved and treated as such), can be seen in, again, a percentage of future sociopathic/psychopathic/antisocial malignant narcissists.
For look! I am creating new heavens and a new earth;
And the former things will not be called to mind,
Nor will they come up into the heart.
What you learn at home depends, though, on how well you employ those “giving” qualities—love, joy, peace, long-suffering, and self-control. Dr. E. James Anthony found that resilient children of even psychotic parents could create an oasis of normalcy in a disrupted household. “They can make something out of very little,” he says. “They’re the type who could find a flower in the desert.”—Parents, November 1983.
Only someone with that kind of faith in God can march into Hell and come out the other side. It is hard to read about that 'woman's inhumanity to children' but nothing like what you have suffered. In raising Peter to be a compassionate, caring, selfless soul - as you have - you have given the world a gift the very opposite of that which that woman inflicted upon the world.
This is why it's so important to vet everyone running for office with a polygraph machine. Questions such as: "What is your primary reason for running for this office?" "Do you have any undisclosed hidden agendas that you hope to carry out through the office for which you're running?" "Do you have any intentions of using your office to reduce the freedom/liberty of law biding citizens?" "Do you have any intentions of bypassing the Constitution in any way in order to carry out an agenda that is unconstitutional?" "Have you had or attempted to have any sexual activity with a child?" (Feel free to add additional questions). As everyone on this thread probably knows, with very few exceptions, America and the world has been controlled by psychopaths (and not merely by people greedy for financial gain). If this was not so, common sense begs the question of why America would still be a member of the United Nations, still be in the Paris Climate Agreement ("climate change") instead of and exposing it for the fraud that it is, still allow the Fed Reserve to operate, still have open borders and not educate people as to the true (hidden) goals of UN Agenda 2030 and its Pact for the Future and why our economy was allowed to be destroyed by the fake pandemic. If the world (historically) had not been run by psychopaths/sociopaths, todays (ongoing and unchanged) major world problems would have been solved long ago.
When the income of members of government is paid by the taxation of the people, it will draw with very few exceptions, the most parasitic, immoral and unethical elements of a society. The power to tax is the power to enslave (another indication of psychopathic control).
Hopefully, DJT and his cabinet will be successful in righting our sinking ship. I know we all hope so, even though many of us think that Trump is just another globalist plant. My intuition tells me he isn't. (Recommend watching podcast of NewsTreason.com when Mike King is their guest every Wednesday.)
I'm so sorry you didn't know a mother's love. She sounds controlling, jealous and revengeful. You being a Christian and connecting with others would have threatened to take her power over you away. Well done for being courageous and breaking free.
I truly believe the darkness in her hated Jesus in me. She tried to make it so difficult for me to participate in church activities by refusing to pick me up. On time (after church) I could not get home. I asked one friend If I could sleep in her house, or I had to walk home. She told me that she was not allowed to take friends home without permission really, but she wanted to help me so around midnight we quietly entered her house and then she had to wake her mother up to tell her the situation, Her mother was not pleased at all, but allowed me to stay there for the night as she did not have the conscience to let a young girl walk all alone on a dark country road in the middle of night.
I had a mother like this. Once I called from a very large train station, I thought I missed the last train home. I too called from a pay-phone (thats how long ago it was and how young I was) TG my father answered. I was under the impression no one cared if I got home. In fact I was worried that if I messed up (by missing my train) that I would be punished severely. She was not the physical abuse type, just the soul-crushing emotional psychological cruel and punishing type. Physical abuse leaves marks. Mine is covert, so no marks to be traced to her, no way. Sly woman. Anyway my father said "please come home- nothing bad will happen" Thank God for that. And for him. And for those words. They seemed to save me. He may not have even known that🙏 Anyway mine was the type to threaten to kick me out of home even as a minor for very convoluted "infractions". Oh thats another story. So glad to have found a sub-stack related to someone else on this planet who had endured a psychopathic mother. You are heard and validated. And survived. I hope you thrive in the New Year- fellow survivor✨🙏✨🙏
That is powerful. Unfortunately, the world is full of broken people. I guess that the best rise above their brokeness, even they remain in some way broken. Praise God.
The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either -- but right through every human heart -- and through all human hearts. This line shifts. Inside us, it oscillates with the years. And even within hearts overwhelmed by evil, one small bridgehead of good is retained
You know, for me, when I understood why my dad was the way he was and what he’d been through, there was nothing to forgive. I could let go of what happened to me as a child. It didn’t make it right or fair but it was also done.
People are the way they are because of what has happened to them in the past. They then pass on their trauma to others. Unless of course they develop the awareness of how they are being and affecting others. Unless they begin their own healing journey.
I went through horrid psychopathic abuse and one of my in-laws was a malignant narcissist who targeted me. From a young age,. then into adulthood I remained optimistic, loving and never gave up. I did hurt a few people (buy arguing or holding back affection on a few occasions; along the way. Then I quickly learned I was only acting out from time to time. however I have never hardened my heart as much as these malignant psychopaths have done to their own hearts, and kept going till they were bent on soul destroying the very people they were meant to love and nurture. It boggles the mind. so are we entirely certain that this "psychopathy' stems from what has happened to them in the past? some criminal psychopaths have actually had very cushy and very loving backgrounds. so this theory puzzles me.🤔
I am sorry that you had to experience that upbringing but I admire your strength and optimism. I believe that psychopaths are created by others or by events. From the trauma you experienced, you could very easily have become one yourself. But luckily you choose a different path. We never truly know what happened to people while they grow up. I think few people grow up with a cushy and loving background in reality. It doesn't take many incidents for people to change their whole perspective on life and lash out at others instead.
Remember that all of these actions are subconscious and so many don't even realize they are doing it. Trauma even travels between generations. If we did a deep dive on a psychopath, I am sure that it will always come back to an experience or incident either in their own life or a previous life, or a parent or grandparent.
I wrote this is other day which is relevant to this topic.
This is so sad! I hope and trust you felt your dad’s love for you and the peace of God trusting Him to keep you safe.
So sad
A heartbreaking story.
But you are a strong survivor
Thanks again for sharing your story that covers people World Wide who have had similar experiences.
"Sometimes people don't want to hear the Truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed."
- Fredrick Nietzsche.
Thank you for sharing. I love your style of writing and how you share your heart ❤️
Thank you. This put a smile on my face.
Thankyou for sharing your experience with us. I am so sorry for all you went through and I pray the Lord gives you healing, comfort and peace.
Such a lonely, vulnerable little girl--Thank you Liv, for sharing your story. ~ Ginger Breggin
Sadly, not all psychopaths/sociopaths/antisocial malignant narcissists were abused in the past and/or experienced extreme trauma -- only an arguable percentage of them. Frankly, research has failed to reveal, with certainty, why people become such monsters -- overt and/or covert. However, the signs, among even toddlers (some well loved and treated as such), can be seen in, again, a percentage of future sociopathic/psychopathic/antisocial malignant narcissists.
It is sad though that they destroy so many lives. One thing I noticed as a child was the complete lack of empathy and remorse.
I know the feeling very well. Similar mother. Perhaps we sabotaged their freedom by existing?
Isaiah 65:17
For look! I am creating new heavens and a new earth;
And the former things will not be called to mind,
Nor will they come up into the heart.
What you learn at home depends, though, on how well you employ those “giving” qualities—love, joy, peace, long-suffering, and self-control. Dr. E. James Anthony found that resilient children of even psychotic parents could create an oasis of normalcy in a disrupted household. “They can make something out of very little,” he says. “They’re the type who could find a flower in the desert.”—Parents, November 1983.
Only someone with that kind of faith in God can march into Hell and come out the other side. It is hard to read about that 'woman's inhumanity to children' but nothing like what you have suffered. In raising Peter to be a compassionate, caring, selfless soul - as you have - you have given the world a gift the very opposite of that which that woman inflicted upon the world.
This is why it's so important to vet everyone running for office with a polygraph machine. Questions such as: "What is your primary reason for running for this office?" "Do you have any undisclosed hidden agendas that you hope to carry out through the office for which you're running?" "Do you have any intentions of using your office to reduce the freedom/liberty of law biding citizens?" "Do you have any intentions of bypassing the Constitution in any way in order to carry out an agenda that is unconstitutional?" "Have you had or attempted to have any sexual activity with a child?" (Feel free to add additional questions). As everyone on this thread probably knows, with very few exceptions, America and the world has been controlled by psychopaths (and not merely by people greedy for financial gain). If this was not so, common sense begs the question of why America would still be a member of the United Nations, still be in the Paris Climate Agreement ("climate change") instead of and exposing it for the fraud that it is, still allow the Fed Reserve to operate, still have open borders and not educate people as to the true (hidden) goals of UN Agenda 2030 and its Pact for the Future and why our economy was allowed to be destroyed by the fake pandemic. If the world (historically) had not been run by psychopaths/sociopaths, todays (ongoing and unchanged) major world problems would have been solved long ago.
When the income of members of government is paid by the taxation of the people, it will draw with very few exceptions, the most parasitic, immoral and unethical elements of a society. The power to tax is the power to enslave (another indication of psychopathic control).
Hopefully, DJT and his cabinet will be successful in righting our sinking ship. I know we all hope so, even though many of us think that Trump is just another globalist plant. My intuition tells me he isn't. (Recommend watching podcast of NewsTreason.com when Mike King is their guest every Wednesday.)
I'm so sorry you didn't know a mother's love. She sounds controlling, jealous and revengeful. You being a Christian and connecting with others would have threatened to take her power over you away. Well done for being courageous and breaking free.
I truly believe the darkness in her hated Jesus in me. She tried to make it so difficult for me to participate in church activities by refusing to pick me up. On time (after church) I could not get home. I asked one friend If I could sleep in her house, or I had to walk home. She told me that she was not allowed to take friends home without permission really, but she wanted to help me so around midnight we quietly entered her house and then she had to wake her mother up to tell her the situation, Her mother was not pleased at all, but allowed me to stay there for the night as she did not have the conscience to let a young girl walk all alone on a dark country road in the middle of night.
Good Bless You😢🤗🤗🤗😇😇😇
Well that’s brought up some memories from my past as well.
I had a mother like this. Once I called from a very large train station, I thought I missed the last train home. I too called from a pay-phone (thats how long ago it was and how young I was) TG my father answered. I was under the impression no one cared if I got home. In fact I was worried that if I messed up (by missing my train) that I would be punished severely. She was not the physical abuse type, just the soul-crushing emotional psychological cruel and punishing type. Physical abuse leaves marks. Mine is covert, so no marks to be traced to her, no way. Sly woman. Anyway my father said "please come home- nothing bad will happen" Thank God for that. And for him. And for those words. They seemed to save me. He may not have even known that🙏 Anyway mine was the type to threaten to kick me out of home even as a minor for very convoluted "infractions". Oh thats another story. So glad to have found a sub-stack related to someone else on this planet who had endured a psychopathic mother. You are heard and validated. And survived. I hope you thrive in the New Year- fellow survivor✨🙏✨🙏
That is powerful. Unfortunately, the world is full of broken people. I guess that the best rise above their brokeness, even they remain in some way broken. Praise God.
The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either -- but right through every human heart -- and through all human hearts. This line shifts. Inside us, it oscillates with the years. And even within hearts overwhelmed by evil, one small bridgehead of good is retained
Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
You know, for me, when I understood why my dad was the way he was and what he’d been through, there was nothing to forgive. I could let go of what happened to me as a child. It didn’t make it right or fair but it was also done.
People are the way they are because of what has happened to them in the past. They then pass on their trauma to others. Unless of course they develop the awareness of how they are being and affecting others. Unless they begin their own healing journey.
I went through horrid psychopathic abuse and one of my in-laws was a malignant narcissist who targeted me. From a young age,. then into adulthood I remained optimistic, loving and never gave up. I did hurt a few people (buy arguing or holding back affection on a few occasions; along the way. Then I quickly learned I was only acting out from time to time. however I have never hardened my heart as much as these malignant psychopaths have done to their own hearts, and kept going till they were bent on soul destroying the very people they were meant to love and nurture. It boggles the mind. so are we entirely certain that this "psychopathy' stems from what has happened to them in the past? some criminal psychopaths have actually had very cushy and very loving backgrounds. so this theory puzzles me.🤔
I am sorry that you had to experience that upbringing but I admire your strength and optimism. I believe that psychopaths are created by others or by events. From the trauma you experienced, you could very easily have become one yourself. But luckily you choose a different path. We never truly know what happened to people while they grow up. I think few people grow up with a cushy and loving background in reality. It doesn't take many incidents for people to change their whole perspective on life and lash out at others instead.
Remember that all of these actions are subconscious and so many don't even realize they are doing it. Trauma even travels between generations. If we did a deep dive on a psychopath, I am sure that it will always come back to an experience or incident either in their own life or a previous life, or a parent or grandparent.
I wrote this is other day which is relevant to this topic.
https://colindurrant.substack.com/p/one-womans-path-to-healing-after