Thank you for posting this story. I could tell a nearly identical tale myself. A true & honest one! Just change the names, the towns. Yet its the exact same story in so many resonating ways! The woman that approached you , even when you were so far from your home town. amazing. perhaps this lady who is dim enough to go…
Thank you for posting this story. I could tell a nearly identical tale myself. A true & honest one! Just change the names, the towns. Yet its the exact same story in so many resonating ways! The woman that approached you , even when you were so far from your home town. amazing. perhaps this lady who is dim enough to go off a story told by Karen (your NMum right?) . Without verifying it first. Its a mistake alot of Flying Monkeys make I would imagine. Psychopath (mothers in my case) are brilliant at creating FM's at the expense of the offspring they desire to keep close to them. And everyone around seems oblivious to their true nature.
All that said, I believe you, Liv. Because I too walked many years in these "moccasins" as the saying goes. Even normalising this behaviour toward me... so much so that I even gaslighted myself at times!! it sets you up for thinking abuse is normal, well its not. Childhood 'family friends' - at our church etc etc believed her over me. Anyway I put this puzzle together eventually and knew it was best to just start over elsewhere. Away from active and even ambient abuse.
So now I am finally in a new geo-location. Funny how its almost instinctual to relocate from the abuser. Its not easy during recovery, for example, I sometimes recreate situations where I self sabotage. Less so than before thankfully. But at least less and less. Still working on that. When you got away from your abuser, were you optimistic in how to heal and find your true self and voice?
maybe making empathic friends going forward? Finding ways to be creative? Such as Writing, Journaling, creative arts, dance or yoga, drawing or painting, meditation. I enjoy walks in nature personally. Anyway this is long. But I pray you have a hot cuppa nearby and my wish is that these words are somehow comforting as they resonate across the internet spaces, bleeping and blipping their way thru cyberspace. I send a warm breeze of validation your way.
I don't mind long comments. I find it interesting. The psychopath is my biological birthmother, but I call her Karen even though it is not her real name.
When it comes to healing;
Following Jesus has been the most important help in my life. He has shown me to be the best friend ever. And he has always been there. I love the time we two have together.
Then I have a husband that also has helped me immensely when I needed someone to talk to.
Then writing. Putting it on paper. It helps. Even if you throw it all away afterwards.
I couldn’t believe she was your biological birth mother. Could she have suffered the same treatment from her past and didn’t know how to handle her relationships?
Its a long one! -->
Thank you for posting this story. I could tell a nearly identical tale myself. A true & honest one! Just change the names, the towns. Yet its the exact same story in so many resonating ways! The woman that approached you , even when you were so far from your home town. amazing. perhaps this lady who is dim enough to go off a story told by Karen (your NMum right?) . Without verifying it first. Its a mistake alot of Flying Monkeys make I would imagine. Psychopath (mothers in my case) are brilliant at creating FM's at the expense of the offspring they desire to keep close to them. And everyone around seems oblivious to their true nature.
All that said, I believe you, Liv. Because I too walked many years in these "moccasins" as the saying goes. Even normalising this behaviour toward me... so much so that I even gaslighted myself at times!! it sets you up for thinking abuse is normal, well its not. Childhood 'family friends' - at our church etc etc believed her over me. Anyway I put this puzzle together eventually and knew it was best to just start over elsewhere. Away from active and even ambient abuse.
So now I am finally in a new geo-location. Funny how its almost instinctual to relocate from the abuser. Its not easy during recovery, for example, I sometimes recreate situations where I self sabotage. Less so than before thankfully. But at least less and less. Still working on that. When you got away from your abuser, were you optimistic in how to heal and find your true self and voice?
maybe making empathic friends going forward? Finding ways to be creative? Such as Writing, Journaling, creative arts, dance or yoga, drawing or painting, meditation. I enjoy walks in nature personally. Anyway this is long. But I pray you have a hot cuppa nearby and my wish is that these words are somehow comforting as they resonate across the internet spaces, bleeping and blipping their way thru cyberspace. I send a warm breeze of validation your way.
I hope it finds its way to you👋✨👩💻🍵☕
I don't mind long comments. I find it interesting. The psychopath is my biological birthmother, but I call her Karen even though it is not her real name.
When it comes to healing;
Following Jesus has been the most important help in my life. He has shown me to be the best friend ever. And he has always been there. I love the time we two have together.
Then I have a husband that also has helped me immensely when I needed someone to talk to.
Then writing. Putting it on paper. It helps. Even if you throw it all away afterwards.
I couldn’t believe she was your biological birth mother. Could she have suffered the same treatment from her past and didn’t know how to handle her relationships?
👩💻✨🍵🙏✝️☦️